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A few notes on happiness + staying true to you.

If you need time out, then, you know, just take it. We all need a break now and then, but nobody else is gonna give you permission to slow down or ease up; it’s not for them to approve. That’s your slip to sign. Have you got a pen?

If you need time out, then, you know, just take it. Twitter Bird Icon: Neshika's Tweetable

If it doesn’t feel good, don’t do it. Just don’t. Forget about shoulds and musts and have-tos. Ain’t nothin’ impressive or respectable about obliging. (Though sometimes, accommodation is super sexy and other times, you just have to suck it up and meet the obligation). When you raise your hand to say I’ll do it, let it be because you want to and because it feels good. If it doesn’t, bow out gracefully. And remember, you’re allowed to change your mind.

If it doesn’t feel good, don’t do it. Just don’t. Twitter Bird Icon: Neshika's Tweetable

If you need to cry, go ahead and let it out. Bottling up is not the strong thing or the brave thing to do, it’s the thing we do to avoid or suppress or deny what’s really going on. Feel what you feel and let it all work its way through you and out, so you can get to work on feeling how you truly want to feel. (A word of comfort: I think joy is our naturally preferred state. The other, less joy-filled emotions we experience may be intense, but they’re transitory, just passing through.) And if how you feel makes you want to weep with joy, don’t hold back; let your cheeks be glistening streams of elation.

If you need to cry, go ahead and let it out. Twitter Bird Icon: Neshika's Tweetable

When you’re not getting it right (especially when you’re not getting it right), be kind to you. Bingeing on sugar after you decided to eat clean. Hitting snooze instead of your yoga mat or the treadmill. Pleasing the whole wide world at your expense and playing the comparison game when you said you’d stop. It’s done. It’s gone. Let it go. This is a brand new moment. And guess what… that means you get to decide differently. Throw your arms around yourself in a wide, compassionate embrace and then make a different choice, a better choice, for your true self.

When you’re not getting it right (especially when you’re not getting it right), be kind to you. Twitter Bird Icon: Neshika's Tweetable

Don’t buy shit you don’t need. I want stuff. I buy stuff. And in between wanting and buying, I think it’s worth asking: do I really need this stuff? Coz, you know, stuff is not proportional to happiness, nor is it a measure of your worth. And besides, living lightly on our land is better for our planet and all its inhabitants.

Don’t buy shit you don’t need. Twitter Bird Icon: Neshika's Tweetable

Don’t be a martyr. Seriously, there’s no praise or recognition to be earned for taking on too much or letting yes escape your lips when the rest of you is screaming no. And why should there be? Doormats don’t get rewarded for acquiescing to being walked all over. Bullies (in varying forms) will bully, until you speak out, until you stand up. So speak out. Stand up. Do it for you.

Don’t be a martyr. Speak out. Stand up. Do it for you. Twitter Bird Icon: Neshika's Tweetable


Stop saying sorry unconsciously, unnecessarily, for every little fucking thing. ‘I’m sorry’ is about as overused as ‘I love…’. When your apology is warranted, express it, with meaning and feeling. Do not apologise for who you are or the way you are. Ever.


Life wants you to live in your truth, out loud and on purpose.
Leap into it.

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