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The art of waiting.

Waiting for a train to go or a bus to come,
or a plane to go or the mail to come,
or the rain to go or the phone to ring,
or the snow to snow or waiting around for a Yes or a No, or waiting for their hair to grow.
Everyone is just waiting.

Waiting for the fish to bite or waiting for wind to fly a kite, or waiting around for Friday night
or waiting, perhaps, for their uncle Jake, or a pot to boil, or a Better Break
or a string of pearls, or a pair of pants, or a wig with curls, or Another Chance.
Everyone is just waiting.

– Dr.Seuss

This propensity we have to wait. It’s innate. It’s inert.

: we wait for someone else to do the work, make the change, decide, give us permission
: we wait for that apology, that opportunity, that sign
: we wait for someone else to initiate
: we wait for love, acceptance, approval
: we wait for the right time, sometime in the future

We wait and we wish, always for something outside ourselves to be different, better, just right, just a little more of whatever we want more of, before we will allow ourselves to be. Here. Now. In this moment. And in the meantime, we hope, we hurt, we hate. We stand still.

In the meantime…time is passing by.

Waiting in hope, waiting in hurt, waiting in hate – these are passive, reactive states of un-doing. Reaction shifts you out of sync and disconnects you from reality. In reaction, you keel over from the shrill, incessant “if only” / “only when” mind chatter. And it can be really hard to rise up from that.

But (there’s always a big, beautiful but to cue the light)…

Available to all of humanity is this fiercely divine, collective creative power to affect how the next moment unfolds. I’m guessing you want to be adding fuel to that fire, not choking it, right? You wanna jam with the boom-ba-boom-ba-boom beat of life, instead of shrinking away from it, yes? You wanna be collaborating, co-creating, communing with your life force, mmm? Yes. Yes, you do.

So, if the waiting is agitating you, here’s what I propose:
Drop the resistance and embrace what you need most – the state of mind to keep expanding and keep moving forward, the ability to wait in stillness.

Waiting in stillness. It’s a bit of an oxymoron. But there’s nothing incongruous about it.

You can be still and keep moving at the same time. Waiting in stillness is not the same as standing still. The difference? Presence.

Ah, presence. That sweet, centred spot where you have the resources, the momentum, the clarity, the tenacity, the awareness, the stillness of mind to create and shape and influence what happens next.

So, how exactly does one wait in stillness?

I’m glad you asked. You stop waiting in your story about the things you want to change and you get rooted in the present.


  • You breathe. Long, slow, deep. Breathe into the joy and the discomfort
  • You get quiet. So you can hear what you already know in your heart. (It kinda happens naturally when you watch your breath.)
  • You get clear on what’s going on in your life, what’s working, what’s not working, what you want, what you want to change and what’s not physically, metaphysically, karmic-ly (I think I just made up a word) in your capacity to change.
  • You feel with your whole heart. Get pissed off, feel the ache of sadness, dance with elation, look fear and frustration in the eye – feel what you feel, wholly. Feelings fester when you don’t honour them.
  • You finish your unfinished business and make your peace with what’s been and done and cannot be undone. Whatever’s baggage is taking up space in your psyche is also taking up space in your life – precious space that could be filled with vitality-infusing thoughts, actions and ingenuity.
  • You set an intention for your deepest desires, you do what only you can do to make good on that intention, and then… you let it go. Release it. Out of your hands. Out of your control. You take a bath or a walk and you go back to living with the awareness that synchronicity is doing her work to bring your intention into being, in alignment with what’s highest and best for you.

Ask for what you want, from whom you want it. And leave room for yes AND no. Your power is in your request, not in their response.

‘Waiting in stillness’ is not about patience for an outcome. It’s about detachment from the outcome.

Expectation-free, you can show up and shine, just because. And, you know, that’s really fucking liberating. Twitter Bird Icon: Neshika's Tweetable

Untangle yourself from the past.
Come back from the future-trip.
Face-forward, yes.
And be here. Be now.
Shine bright in this unrepeatable instant.

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